We have a lot of shared experiences of which alcohol is the common factor. People who successfully quit drinking recognize their 'triggers' and plan for the urges and situations.
I once started writing down some of those obstacles, triggers, factors--whatever you want to call them--to talk about how we can plan for them. Certain themes kept coming up, sort of a mix of the things that lead us to choose alcohol, and the beliefs and conditions that make it more difficult for us to not choose alcohol.
Moderation of drinking (when it doesn't work)
Adrenalin and excitement from reckless behavior
Low frustration tolerance
Family dynamics and background
Ambivalence (lack of commitment)
Added by others:
"Escape" would be my most close-to-the-bone reason for using.
Drama and chaos
To avoid thinking about the possibilties of what I "should" do with my life
* "The Number One cause of relapse is lack of coping skills"
Lack of motivation for abstinence
Wanting a drink!
Avoidance behavior (escapism).
Wondering if I will become alienated, unless I drink. I would like to hear more about what people've learned about Coping with social anxiety--without alcohol.
A biggie on my list of triggers is MARITAL PROBLEMS.
Feeling more sexual gratification? Better performance? Less inhibitions. Less shy.
Feeling more attractive.
To just feel better.
Cause I deserve it! I deserve to get drunk. What a laugh.
Unrecognized and untreated mood disorders.
Obviously many of these overlap! Any more? What is the greatest trigger to your drinking, and obstacle to your sobriety?